On this page, we talk about how you might feel when your ends.
Your relationship with someone is how you are connected to them.
We also talk about how to keep yourself safe if you have experienced in your relationship.
Domestic and family violence is when someone close to you hurts you, such as:
- your partner, like your boyfriend or girlfriend
- a member of your family
- someone who takes care of you
- someone you live with.
There is support available if the information on this page upsets you.
You can find out more on our page about support.
How you might feel after a relationship ends
It can be hard when a relationship ends.
For example, with a:
- friend
- partner, like a boyfriend or girlfriend.
The person might have been a big part of your life.
You might feel:
- very sad
- lonely
- like you have lost something.
These feelings will not last forever.
You might also feel guilty if you were the person who ended the relationship.
Especially if you have children.
You might worry that you will never have another relationship.
It is okay to feel these things.
It can be helpful to:
- think about why you ended the relationship
- remember why it was the right choice for you.
Do not forget to ask your friends and family for support.
You can also reach out to services that can give you support.
Keeping yourself safe
You might feel scared if you ended a relationship because of domestic violence or abuse.
Your partner might:
- get angry
- threaten you
- behave in ways that hurt you or other people.
They might tell you that they will treat you better.
And that they will stop using domestic violence or abuse.
You do not have to believe them.
Thinking about how someone behaved in the past is the best way to know how they will behave in the future.
It is a good idea to ask for support if this happens to you.
You can call a helpline.
Helplines are phone numbers that will connect you to people who:
- care about what you are going through
- can give you good advice.
We have a list of helplines on our website.
You can find out more on our page about helplines.
Getting support
It can be hard to know what to do when a relationship ends.
You might feel:
- lost
- confused.
If you do not feel better after a month, you might be experiencing
Depression can be a serious mental health problem.
If you have depression, you feel very bad most of the time.
You should speak to a doctor if you think you are experiencing depression.
They will work to make sure you get the support you need.
You can also reach out to your friends and family.
Or you can try a new activity.
For example, you can:
- play a new sport
- join a craft group
- join a book club.
We have information on our website about how to take part in the community.
You can find out more on our page about connecting with the community.
We also have information on our website about how you can:
- focus on what you want and need
- learn to feel good.
You can find out more on our page about wellbeing.
The law can protect you if you do not feel safe.
You can find out more on our page about how the law can protect you from domestic or family violence.
